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[deckardcanine]

Every so often, I want to remove someone from my Friends list, not out of anger but simply because their entries don't appeal to me much anymore. As yet, however, I have never de-Friended anyone who still had me on their own list. Partly I don't want to risk shrinking my already small readership, but mainly I don't know how to do it without feeling rude. My LJ doesn't bar non-Friends from replying, but an ex-Friend might still discover their removal on their own. Even posting this entry give me a nagging feeling of rudeness, despite not having implicated any particular Friends.

My grasp on face-to-face etiquette is weak enough. Does anyone know a good source for netiquette?

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[publius-aelius.livejournal.com]

You may have noticed that I put a lot of words into full CAPS; I was once told that was "yelling" at people. But I considered that absurd, and continue to capitalize words I feel need emphasis. Of course I know that that's not recommended by modern sylists, who feel that if a word requires emphasis, only the CONTEXT should be helping it to that--and that, if the context isn't doing that for what you feel needs emphasis, then you ought to tweak your diction.

However, I am much influenced by certain more visual pre-19th century cultures, which even strove for a visual impression in print: in the 16th and 17th centuries, many words that we don't capitalize were, and much more was done with the "look" of print on a page than we think is reasonable or necessary.

So, it's my "STYLY' and I reckon I won't change my "STYLE" for the sake of "netiquette."

[(Anonymous)]

You ought to feel empowered to make your own decisions on that, and do what you want to do. There isn't much actual consequence to your behavior on your own journal, I regularly de- and re-friend a couple people on my list simply because I get sick of reading/seeing their posts all the time, if they notice, they certainly never make any kind of fuss about it.
Also, if you wish to enlarge your readership, you ought to go to the "recently updated journals" button on the front page, look at the 200+ entries there, and add a few folks who seem to be interesting to you, then comment. They'll probably add you back.

Viva your vida loca.

[deckardcanine.livejournal.com]

If only I had the time and stamina to explore 200+ journals. But thanks for enlightening me to that button.

[ashkitty.livejournal.com]

fanmanners tackles things like this to an extent. :)

But really, if you want to defriend someone, you should be able to just do it. Things happen. (Not that I ever defriend anyone either. The one person I've ever defriended, they had to do something pretty awful to get to that point....)

[-fairest.livejournal.com]

It's me, isn't it? (I am laughing) Remember, I told you a long time ago that you cannot offend me. We are just online acquaintances...but I did mention your name to my DH just yesterday at the mall.

It's okay. Click me away! :)

[nefaria.livejournal.com]

The sad thing is, some people can't distinguish the difference between being a friend and being on someone's LJ friends list.

For example, some people who list me as a friend post several times a day on their LJ about how my political party is evil and everyone who votes for them is stupid or brainwashed. I don't mind having these people as friends, but I don't want to read their political diatribes every time I check my LJ, so I don't friend them. It doesn't mean I don't like them, just that I'm not interested in what they post on their LJ.